Is it Time for You to Realign?

3 Questions to land you in your Sweet Spot

Recently I had the opportunity to spend time with 75 next generation leaders. It was awesome to listen to their stories and hear about their dreams.

There were future teachers, artists, actors, engineers, politicians, ministers, athletes, lawyers, and even an aspiring sniper.

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Through the FINDING YOUR WAY Process, hopefully each one left our time together more pointed and more determined.

As you look at your own life, are you leading in your sweet spot? If not, I’m guessing you are somewhat miserable. Life is too short to stay stuck.

Take some time this week and work on your alignment. Ask the following questions to give yourself a jumpstart:

1. Where is the fulfillment? Is there an activity that brings you energy? A place where you feel highly motivated and eager to show up? If so, it deserves a big portion of your schedule. Stop wasting time on things that suck the life out of you.

2. Where is the fruit? Is there a place in your life where you are highly successful? Often times, the things we are good at have a tendency to bring us joy. Pay attention to the places where you are highly competent.

3. Where is the affirmation? Is there something you do that causes others to constantly encourage you? Maybe you have not been willing to admit to yourself what others have been saying. The fact is, there is an area where you are great. It just needs to be discovered.

If you have been going through the motions, now is the time to realign.


If money, responsibility, expectations, and limitations were not factors, what would you want to do differently with your time?

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Are You Playing with Passion?

“To play a wrong note is insignificant. To play without passion is inexcusable.”

Those words spoken by Beethoven are a challenge to leaders. So many I know are simply going through the motions, punching a clock, longing for a day when they can be free from the monotony of their work. Sound familiar?


Clearly you are talented or you wouldn’t be in a leadership role. The question is, are you in the right role?

When I was a kid I actually spent a few months taking piano lessons. If it weren’t for all the practice I might have been good. Unfortunately according to Beethoven I lacked the most important thing … passion. There is a difference in liking music and having the passion to be a musician.

It all fell apart for me when my first piano recital coincided with a baseball all-star game. Thanks to my dad’s help (he was my coach), we talked my mom into allowing me to skip the recital. My piano career ended that night, but I did strike out a few guys and got a couple of hits. Thankfully, I followed my passion.

How we spend our time is a choice. Make the decision to do what you love and you will not only have more fun, but your life will soon become music to those you lead.

Leadership Begins at Home,


Why do you think so many people choose comfort over courage?

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Dealing with Different … 6 Ways to Embrace Change: Part 3

Anticipate an Adventure

Go ahead and expect it. If you choose to be courageous and your heart is right, you can anticipate an adventure.

One of the things I failed to appreciate when I made my big transition to encouraging leaders full-time was what an adventure it would be. It has stretched me, challenged me, pushed me, and caused me to grow. I can’t imagine how stuck I would be had I not embraced change.

The adventure has taken me all over the country. During the last 18 months, I have met thousands of leaders, traveled to Yellowstone and Alaska, attended an NBA playoff game to watch the Spurs on their march to a 5th championship in 15 years, spent a week at spring training with my favorite team the Pirates, and experienced some amazing days in the Big Apple with my wife learning the craft of storytelling.


As I write these words, I am enjoying the beauty of West Virginia, a place I had never been before the change. If I had chosen comfort, none of these adventures would have happened. I hate to admit it, but I never anticipated how great change could be.

Change has a way of taking us places – not just places on the map. The demands of different are the catalyst to accelerate our accomplishments. Change propels us to progress. It grows us toward greatness.

If you are facing a change and find yourself mired in fear or looking for reasons to resist, I challenge you to lean in.

If you will, you can anticipate an adventure.

Leadership begins at home.


When it comes to change, do you think it is easier for leaders to anticipate adversity or adventure? Why?

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Dealing With Different … 6 Ways to Embrace Change: Part 1

Choose Courage Over Comfort

Yesterday I had the opportunity to take our change topic to another level by speaking at an annual retreat for a department whose company just restructured. The topic? You guessed it … Change.

Change Retreat

Can we all just agree … things are changing at blur speed?

Once we accept the fact that change is inevitable and make the decision to pursue growth (see yesterday’s post), we have two choices. We can either lean in or we can resist and be left behind.

I’m no different from anyone else. For me, change is hard. I like the status quo as much as the next guy … except I don’t. If the next guy is a leader he knows the status quo will ultimately suck the soul out of him and the people he leads.

Through the years I have experienced thousands of changes. I am finally learning to look forward to most of them. While I still resist occasionally, I have identified six steps to serve as my filter whenever I find myself “dealing with different.” Over the next few days I will share them with you. I encourage you to incorporate them into your leadership. I’m confident they will help you lean in to change.

Step 1 … Choose Courage over Comfort – When I started my company to encourage and equip leaders, the transition took longer than it should have because fear was involved. I heard voices. Mostly my own … Randy, how can you walk away from your income when you have three kids in college and one a year away? What about your health insurance? What if no one will hire you to speak to their organization or team? What if no one is looking for a leadership coach? What if you fail?

Thankfully my wife believed in and encouraged me, and my four daughters called me a sissy. “Dad you keep telling everyone else to live in their sweet spot. You and Uncle Danno even wrote a book on it. It looks to us like you are a scaredy-cat, sissy-chicken.”

Ouch! A man can only take so much from his little women.

Ultimately I decided to go for it. I knew if I didn’t I would one day be an old man full of disappointment and regret. Admittedly, if I had failed I would have been disappointed that I didn’t have what it takes. But I knew I wouldn’t have any regret.

Without courage I had lost my edge as a leader. Edge is a big deal. Without it, you limit your influence. I had conversations with God about my angst. I kept finding places in Scripture where He commands His followers to be courageous. I couldn’t find a single admonishment toward comfort.

When I chose courage and made the change it was like the wind returned to my sails. The support was overwhelming. I discovered it was even bigger than my doubts had been. There was plenty of work with my name on it. Provision was beyond what I could have ever dreamed. And My daughters were my biggest fans. Imagine that!

I told my wife, “This is unbelievable.” She reminded me, as she often does, “No this is believable. This is what you have prayed and prepared for.”

So how about you? Are you comfortable? I hope not. Because if you are, you are most likely miserable. If today finds you in a place where you know you need to make a change, resist the resistance … choose courage over comfort.

Leadership Begins at Home,


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I’ll share a second step to help you embrace change in my next post.